II. Technique: Trust and Respect your children

  1. Promote independence and privacy
  2. Respect your child's and spouse's feelings
  3. Believe your children

III. Technique: Provide emotional security

  1. Be gentle and dependable
  2. Make children feel safe expressing yourselves

IV. Technique: Provide physical security

  1. Provide for basic needs (food, shelter, clothing)
  2. Teach hygiene and nutrition
  3. Maintain a family routine
  4. Monitor safety and attend to injuries

V. Technique: Provide Discipline

  1. Be Consistent!
  2. Ensure rules and Discipline are age appropriate
    1. Time Outs for young children lacking self control
      1. Remove child from situation to quiet spot
      2. Use specified time (1 minute per year of age)
    2. Briefly exclude older child from family activity
      1. Child misbehaves at the dinner table
        1. Asked to leave the room until proper behavior
      2. Television or Computer privileges are withdrawn
  3. Be clear about limits
  4. Use Discipline to give instructions, not punishment
  5. Reinforce good behavior with smiles, hugs, praise
  6. Ignore undesired behaviors (whining or sulking)

VI. Technique: Share adequate time with children

  1. Participate in activities at school and sports
  2. Include your children in your activities
  3. Support a child's interests, activities and learning
  4. Give affection freely and frequently

VII. Technique: Care for yourself and your spouse

  1. Take personal time
  2. Keep yourself healthy

VIII. Resources: Parenting

  1. Barkley (2013) Your Defiant Child, Guilford Press
    1. Paid link to Amazon.com (ISBN 1462510078)
  2. Bender (1996) Keep your Kids from Driving You Crazy
    1. Paid link to Amazon.com (ISBN 0471130125)
  3. Greene (2014) Explosive Child
    1. Paid link to Amazon.com (ISBN 0062270451)
  4. Gordon (2000) Parenting Effectiveness Training
    1. Paid link to Amazon.com (ISBN 0609806939)
  5. Wyckoff (2002) Discipline without shouting or Spanking
    1. Paid link to Amazon.com (ISBN 0743228545)

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