II. Technique: Trust and Respect your children
- Promote independence and privacy
- Respect your child's and spouse's feelings
- Believe your children
III. Technique: Provide emotional security
- Be gentle and dependable
- Make children feel safe expressing yourselves
IV. Technique: Provide physical security
- Provide for basic needs (food, shelter, clothing)
- Teach hygiene and nutrition
- Maintain a family routine
- Monitor safety and attend to injuries
V. Technique: Provide Discipline
- Be Consistent!
- Ensure rules and Discipline are age appropriate
- Time Outs for young children lacking self control
- Remove child from situation to quiet spot
- Use specified time (1 minute per year of age)
- Briefly exclude older child from family activity
- Child misbehaves at the dinner table
- Asked to leave the room until proper behavior
- Television or Computer privileges are withdrawn
- Child misbehaves at the dinner table
- Time Outs for young children lacking self control
- Be clear about limits
- Use Discipline to give instructions, not punishment
- Reinforce good behavior with smiles, hugs, praise
- Ignore undesired behaviors (whining or sulking)
VI. Technique: Share adequate time with children
- Participate in activities at school and sports
- Include your children in your activities
- Support a child's interests, activities and learning
- Give affection freely and frequently
VII. Technique: Care for yourself and your spouse
- Take personal time
- Keep yourself healthy
VIII. Prevention
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Mindfulness-enhanced parenting training
- Decreases parental anxiety, emotional stress and depression
- Featherston (2024) Cochrane Database Syst Rev 1(1):CD012445 +PMID: 38197473 [PubMed]
IX. Resources: Parenting
- Barkley (2013) Your Defiant Child, Guilford Press
- Bender (1996) Keep your Kids from Driving You Crazy
- Greene (2014) Explosive Child
- Gordon (2000) Parenting Effectiveness Training
- Wyckoff (2002) Discipline without shouting or Spanking